By using Fujitsu (Japan) `IR-Commander` or `Crossam2+ ( Japan ) `, you get high reliability computerized home control environment. IR Commander is a multi-function adapter that supported IrDA / ASK / 24 feet 360 degree TV-Remote. Crossam2+ is the remotes which equipped RS-232.
I recommend above two devices. Another selection, use Actisys ACT-IR200L. ACT-IR200L has TV-Remote function, It isn`t known generally. RemoconCon use this TV-Remote function.
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